Rihanna, Rihanna, Rihanna.
What the heck are you thinking, girl? That man beat you up so bad you couldn’t show your face in public, and it wasn’t the first blow-up you two had together.
Does he have to break your head open before you realize you need to quit him?
Shouldn’t your people — family, friends, management — be telling you the same thing?
Look, if you don’t get him out of your life, he is going to ruin your life: he’s going to ruin your career if he hasn’t already, he’s going to break your body, he’s going to poison your mind. He may promise to be good, he may say everything is going to be alright baby, but he’s going to break those promises unless he commits to some serious counseling. And if he were going to do that, he would have long since done it, girl. If all these music industry “friends” really cared about you, they would be keeping you away from him instead of helping you get back together with him.
Look at what that man did to you!
You have an opportunity here. You can stand up and say “I am a beautiful, talented, intelligent woman and I don’t have to take this **** any more.” You can tell him where to stuff it, and you can be a role model for other women who aren’t as fortunate as you. Women who don’t have fancy clothes and record contracts and “people” but do have “A thug in my life”.
There is no excuse for domestic violence. There is no excuse for a man hitting you. There is no excuse for excusing him. And don’t let anybody blame you; the only thing you’ve done is failed to walk away.
That goes for those of you who don’t happen to be Rihanna too.
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good advice; that of leaving an abusive relationship. But don’t forget that it is not always the male that is the abuser. Nor that there has been somewhat of a legal over-reaction and false accusations are easily made and accepted by law enforcement without much evidence or investigation. I, male, have experienced at the hands of two different women, both physical abuse on my person and false accusation which went all the way to court before the “complainant” recanted; (without repercussion, I might add. )
Both genders can be violent. And none of it should be tolerated.
In another brush with passionate aggression, a woman I knew was shot dead at the college she was attending by an ex-lover. She had dismissed his rantings a hyperbole. A fatal mistake.
Officially, I am mortified.
You are of course correct on multiple levels. I really recommend Gavin DeBecker’s book “The Gift of Fear”, as there are many pages that deal with these issues.